Tonight's entry is about Tom. It's not about something that he did recently, or at least no specific action, just him in general. Having this deployment staring us in the eye is making me very nostalgic about the way things were. It also got me into thinking about the reasons I married him.
Things were very different when we got married. Not good different, not bad different. Just different. We didn't really have any cares, we were both in the military enjoying our time together. We loved each other and that was all that mattered... at the time. Our marriage, we realized after the fact, happened too soon. We are proof that love is the binder of all marriages. Once we had been together for two years, our marriage was on the verge of being over, and neither of us knew what to do about it. We kept focusing on the things we didn't like about one another. All the things we didn't have in common.
Now, we've overcome some pretty major obstacles and we are approaching our 4th year of marriage together. Yes, there are many things we don't have in common, but we've learned to have our separate lives with our hobbies, and our loving lives together. We spend time together talking and joking. We play board games and video games. We like to take walks together and just be together.
There is a comfort that I find with him that I've never felt with anyone else. Whenever we were arguing, I always felt that I was more tense than I should be. He balances me. He keeps my high energy personality grounded so it doesn't overtake me. He does try to make me happy, but I've learned he's not a mind reader either! The past four years have taught me a lot about him as well as myself. We're still learning the best ways to communicate with one another, but it's because we love one another that we're still willing we try. He knows the little chores around the house that I absolutely hate doing, and he (generally) takes care of them for me. He always apologizes when he forgets something and he always tells me he loves me. There has never been any question of whether he loves me.
I'm lucky to have found a man who not only grounds and balances me, but has taught me things about myself. Things like my temper can be controlled, or that it's easier to let things roll off your shoulders than originally thought. I've never regretted saying my vowes to him, and I never will. As long as he's committed to our life together, so am I.
"Love one another and you will be happy. It's as simple and as difficult as that." ~Michael Leunig
Good night.
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